I got out of bed to pee at about 3 o’clock this morning. I noted that Diane had not yet come to bed. She was reading something on her computer sitting on the terrace. That is not unusual. She rarely comes to bed before about 3 in the morning. Her normal sleeping patterns have always been out-of-whack.
I sat with her for a few minutes and we began to talk of our experiences here in Ecuador, the people we have met here and in our lives previous to Ecuador. I don’t remember the exact path of the conversation. It was, after all, a bit after 3 in the morning. We sat, talked and listened to the night noises. Carmine came from the bedroom to join us and quickly found a comfortable spot between us, promptly falling asleep again.
We spoke of our first meeting and I related my feelings about that night as I had many times before. I reminded her that I had, for decades, imagined her exactly as she was…before I met her; a slightly built woman with a reddish tint to her hair, kind to all, intelligent, open, caring, witty with a love for life and humanity. I went on. Did I manifest her through positive thinking or was she an answer to prayer? Is there a difference? Or was it simply coincidence?
We talked of our specific friendships with others and I explained how I had learned, from her examples, how to be a good friend.
After some 30-40 minutes we finally found our way to the bedroom where the conversation deepened to spirituality and how the universe connects all of us. The topic intertwined science, conventional religious beliefs of the world (to which I do not subscribe) and the universal concept of spirituality. We talked of the written works of Gary Zukov (The Seat of the Soul) and the numerous books of Marianne Williamson and others. We discussed the purpose of life and the choices we make…the choices our souls make both here in this existence, before and after. Diane stated one of the concepts she had read…that there were no tragedies in life, only experiences and that every experience brings a lesson that needs to be learned. More discussion.
We spoke of the accidental death of my youngest son when he was 27 and how, through that horrific experience, I had learned many lessons very quickly that I will never forget. We know others who also learned lessons from Aaron’s death and the reflection of his life.
Diane reminded me of her late arrival into her family and the problems her imminent arrival caused for her middle-aged parents. We spoke of the fact that everything that happens in our lives may not be directly related to us and that we may be playing a bit-part in the life of another. We retold and relived important milestones in each of our lives and connected them to specific lessons learned to include how Diane’s untimely arrival into her family provided a powerful and essential role for her to play some years later when her mother became gravely ill.
I could go on about the depth of our conversation on the universe itself, the concept of infinity, quantum physics and such but…the point is that we talked. It was no lightweight conversation. It was a deep, soul-bearing exploration of our mutual existence and how we have in the past… and continue presently to interact with our world. We talked and connected for a very long time, neither of us feeling sleepy.
It was a give and take exercise in our truths and perceptions in the pre-dawn hours, lying in a dark room, side-by-side in a small country on the earth’s equator with our Chihuahua tucked between us.
It’s a few minutes after 7 o’clock in the morning as I am writing this. The sun has risen to reveal a gray, misty morning with birds singing and the surf of the Pacific gently rolling onto the shore. I expect that Diane and Carmine will sleep for several more hours. It was a busy night!
The truth is that I married WAY “over my head” and I know it! Diane is a brainiac. She graduated number one in her class, Suma Cum Laude, with a perfect 4.0 GPA and was granted membership in several academic sororities and honor societies. She surely could have done many things with her gift but chose to work with children; first as a teacher and then as an administrator through a national mentoring program. Our brains are wired very differently but our souls are perfectly connected together.
Yeah…sometimes we talk about recipes, television programs, sex, finances, politics, the lives of our friends, our families and the normal daily stuff that all couples discuss. But it’s great to know that there is much greater depth available when we want it. I am one, very lucky dude!!
I’m gonna’ need a nap this afternoon, for sure!!!